Suicide Prevention 43 continued SUPPORT FOR PEOPLE LIVING WITH LOSS cont’d Shame It may be difficult to discuss the cause of death for fear of being judged. Rather than telling stories, it is okay to say you are not ready to talk about the loss. Some people continue to believe the myth that all people who die by suicide are either mentally ill or come from dysfunctional families. Others who care may stay away as they do not know what to say or how to be helpful. Let friends and family know what you need from them. Relief You may feel relief after a suicide, especially when the relationship with the deceased has been difficult and chaotic or if you have watched the person suffer for a long time. Denial You may not fully accept the reality of the suicide.You may move in and out of denial.This is especially common in the beginning of grief. Why Questions “Why” questions over and over in an effort to understand the reason your loved one died by suicide is a normal part of the healing process.With suicide, even when people think they have touched upon the answer – the “Why” question continues to surface. Fear You may fear that other family members or friends will die. Loss of selfesteem and confidence in problem solving or decision-making is normal. Depression The world as you knew it changed the moment your loved one died. Grief impacts everything including sleep patterns, eating habits, concentration, energy levels and motivation. Spiritual or Religious Beliefs Spiritual beliefs and values previously held may be challenged. You may question the meaning or purpose of life. Fear of rejection by your religious community can also be a factor. Thinking About Suicide Due to the intensity of the grief process, some people just want the pain to end and begin to experience suicide related thoughts. Having these thoughts
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